Food for thought.

"The bottom line is, even if you see them coming, you're not ready for the big moments. No one asked for their life to change, not really, but it does. So what are we helpless? Puppets? No, the big moments are going to come you can't help that, its what you do afterwards that counts, thats when you find out who you are."
- Whistler, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, "Becoming Part 1"